Sometimes I Disappoint

The most wonderful and painful thing in the entire world is to truly love people with your whole heart.

I hope you know what it feels like to love a child, a lover, a spouse, a friend, a parent or grandparent or somebody so much that you delight in expressing the love you feel. Not for any reason other than to bless them. I am not necessarily talking about big, audacious ways of showing love, although those are quite wonderful. But the small things we do that touch their hearts and let them know we see them, let them know we remember what is important to them, let them know we care. These little things are often the biggest things, really.

It's the small things we do for others that touch their hearts and let them know we care. #encouragement Click To Tweet

When you blow it…

Have you ever blown it though? Have you ever had great intentions of doing something that got messed up for one reason or another? For me it is usually when the “thing” is out of the realm of my natural flow, so I have to continually keep it top of mind or just do it immediately, which I am not the greatest at doing. Or, the thing that is needed is at a time where there are competing priorities and both are important, so I don’t end up doing either one fully well. Ugh. I hate it. I just hate disappointing those I love.

This past week I blew it. And the week before, too. With two different people, both tremendously dear to me. I didn’t do anything bad. I just didn’t do what was needed or expected. Time travel would be such an awesome gift. I would go back. I would do what I didn’t do in one situation and I would do things differently in the other. And I don’t know about you, but I can get really hard on myself and beat myself up and tell myself all kinds of lies when that happens. Last night was one of those times. I couldn’t sleep for thinking of all the “what if’s” and “why didn’t I’s”.

The truth when we fail or disappoint others…

The truth is, we fail. We disappoint. From our vantage point, we always will. Because we are human. But there is a vantage point higher than our own, and God was super good to show that to me in the wee hours of this morning. Tossing and turning, listening to lies, I finally got up and sought some truth. The words of a song came to mind that were written by a young woman, Lauren Daigle, when she needed to be grounded in the truth of her identity. I needed that reminder this morning. I needed to remember my identity was not “failure.” Or “disappointment.” My identity is actually only who God says I am. Whether I feel it or not. Whether others see it or not. When we fight the voices in our heads that tell us we aren’t enough, or we don’t measure up, there is another voice that speaks truth. He says we are loved even when we don’t feel it. We are strong even when we don’t think it. We are held close even when we think we don’t deserve it because we have messed up…again. We are His. Fully and completely. Delightfully His. Even when we feel like we don’t belong.

The truth is, we all fail and disappoint others. But, our identity is not that failure or disappointment. #encouragement Click To Tweet

Truth. There’s nothing like it. It can go deep down in our spirits and change everything. I hope you will take a few minutes to listen to God’s words to you through Lauren Daigle’s song “You Say”. Meditate on them and let them go into the deep inner part of you that recognizes truth and embraces it. The place where peace comes, even when you sometimes disappoint or shake others’ confidence in you, because God’s confidence in you is not shaken. Nor is He disappointed. Be encouraged today, as you continue on your journey of discovering all that you truly are as His masterpiece creation.

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YOU SAY…by Lauren Daigle

I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I’m not enough.
Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up.
Am I more than just the sum of every high and every low?
Remind me once again just who I am, because I need to know.

You say I am loved, when I can’t feel a thing.
You say I am strong, when I think I am weak.
You say I am held, when I am falling short.
When I don’t belong, You say I am Yours.
And I believe. Oh, I believe.
What You say of me.
I believe.

The only thing that matter now is everything You think of me.
In You I find my worth.
In You I find my identity.

Taking all I have and now I’m laying it at Your feet.
You have every failure, God.
You have every victory.

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Brenda Harkins mines the gold in people to help them clearly see their talent, identify their purpose and unleash potential to navigate their unique success. Brenda is a Life and Leadership Coach in her own organization, as well as with The John Maxwell Team and CoreClarity. She is a Public Speaker, Author, Mediator, Entrepreneur, and President of The Harkins Group, Inc. You can connect with Brenda at brenda@brendaharkins.com or find out more at https://brendaharkins.com.